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Discussion group meets
1st & 3rd Thursdays
6:00pm to 8:00pm
@ the LGBT Center
(208 W 13 St, between
7th & 8th Aves.)

Optional, informal dinner
follows at a nearby
BiRequest NYC - Thurs - 19 Nov 2015

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Date:  Thursday 19 November 2015
Time:  6:00pm - 8:00pm
Location:  NYC's lgBtQ Community Center
208 West 13 Street, NYC
    ....between 7th Avenue & Greenwich/8th Avenues
Check at the front desk on arrival to confirm room location.
Facilitator:  Elizabeth and Howard
Topic:  Coming Out: the Social Strategy. 
Coming Out: Arguably the most challenging task a person can take-on in coming to terms with their sexual orientation, acknowledging their deepest attractions and desires, and finding freedom in their gender expression.

For one thing, Coming Out seems like a task that is never done. It's done with people close to us, and oft times total strangers. It can be planned over months, or done in a moment's passing. And with every new season, every new semester's attendance call, every new activity undertaken, a new group of folks to tell

Then, it appears impossible to brace yourself properly, with some folks celebrating the news, while other reject you right off.. often to our utter surprise based on what we thought we knew about them (our family, our friends, our classmates, our neighbors).

One thing is absolutely true, though hardly ever discussed: Coming Out is a social phenomenon.  It doesn't happen in a vacuum, it happens within and among our various social circles. To boot, there are always repercussions -- who will know, when it will happen, and how become matters of social intrigue to put it mildly. And because there are feelings involved -- both our own and those who receive our news --  therein lies the drama.   

This week we try to diffuse the drama by taking a long hard look at the process, and hopefully finding a way to help the planning along.  We'll need to cozy up to "passing" as something we do not always have control over.  We'll have to bite our tongue past the assumptions people make about us.  And we need a strategy to keep the whole process safe. 
Bring your own stories of coming out and coming home. Take stock within a circle of support, of who your real friends are... and figure out if you know them at all.

Join our famously supportive, BiRequest crowd for an engaging conversation. Come and share the values of those you'd like to call your friends, and find new ways to test the waters before you dive into a pool of sharks.  Share your stories of inner truth and outer expression, or just hang out and listen to what others have to say.


Open to all Bi and bi-friendly folks, of any age, race, gender, ability; likewise for affectional or relational, sexual or spiritual orientations. Ours is a tiny example of the rainbow; a safe space to share your perspective and insights into all things Bi.

And if you can’t join us for the meeting, catch up with us for dinner, round 8:15-ish, at...

Good Stuff Diner
109 West 14th Street
(north side of 14th St, just west of 6th Ave)
~ always a short walk from our meeting, wherever they are

** Please TXT Paul before 7pm  if you will be joining us after the meeting for the dinner only..  he'll add a seat for you when the reservation is made: 347-645-6509 = txt

PostScript regarding restaurants:
If you  would like to help expand our palette of dining options, suggestion are welcomed.

We need a place that can accommodate 20 people from 8:15pm for about an hour  on a given Thursday - both in seating us, and relative speed for serving too.  

We also need the menu to have some vegetarian options, and to be fairly reasonable in cost.  

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